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The Four Faces of Manhood



The Four Faces of Manhood
Intro:
  • We need a biblically - based masculinity that is Multi – dimensional – the kind of masculinity that can move into multiple settings and express itself appropriately and powerfully when needed.
  • In this session we are going to introduce you to the four faces of manhood.

The King FaceLeading with Integrity
1. The King Face reflects righteous energy.
Characterized By:
  • Strong conviction
  • Courageous moral choices
  • Servant’s spirit
  • Righteous leadership
It’s essence is:
·        Providing for others
·        Loving what is right
2. The King Face is primarily associated with integrity.
3. Good examples of the King face, both from the Old Testament.
  • Nathan
  • King David
4. The King face is also associated with Leadership.
5. Caricatures of the King face
  • If a man’s King Face is pushed too far, he can become a bully, tyrant, or dictator – the Tyrant.
  • If a man does not have enough of the King Face, he can struggle with compromise – the Compromise.
6. The King Face – Leading with integrity.


The Warrior FaceFighting for what matters most
1. The Warrior Face reflects Courageous energy.
Characterized By:
  • Initiative
  • Protection
  • Provision
  • Perseverance
2. The Warrior Face is primarily associated with Initiative.
3. The Warrior Face fights for what matters most.
4. It is also associated with Purpose.
5. 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 – Run the race to win. Fight for the Nobel things and the eternal things.
6. 1 Tim. 11:12 – Fight the Good  Fight of the earth.
7. Caricatures of the Warrior Face:
  • If a man’s Warrior Face is pushed too far, he can become abusive and harsh to those around him – The Destroyer.
  • If a man’s does not have enough of the Warrior Face, he can struggle with passivity.  He easily gives up and is quick to tap out or surrender – The Wimp.
8. The Warrior Face - Fighting for what matters most.


The Lover / Friend
Intro: We’ll look at the Lover Face and the Friend Face.
  • These faces stretch our Relational Capacity and can be unnatural for many men.
  • Many men suffer from a stunted and reducted masculinity be they have never valued or learned to navigate their own Heart, their own feelings, and their own emotions.
  • Relational capacity requires men to engage Emotionally.
  • 1 Thessalonians 2:7-9 – “Instead, we were like young children among you. Just as a nursing mother cares for her children, so we care for you. Because we love you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well. Surely you remember, brothers and sisters, our toil and hardship; we worked night and day in order not to be a burden to anyone while we preached the gospel of God to you.”
  • According to Stu Weber “whether on a football field, in a battle zone or under the roof of your own home, a man’s willingness to show affection and care…to Connect... mark him as a leader and a man of God.


The Lover FaceShowing Tender Care
1. The Lover Face is primarily associated with tender care for others and a willingness to be emotionally Vulnerable.
2. The Lover Face reflects Relational energy. It is characterized by tenderness, sensitivity, beneficial care, emotional openness, physical affection, and verbal communication. Lover Face in action:
  • Picks up on wife’s real needs
  • Together time with wife
  • There for his family
  • Connects on a emotional level
  • Student of his kids
  • Say’s, “love you…” “proud of you…” “you’re special…”
3. Examples of warriors who could also wear the Lover Face:
  • U.S. Army Major Sullivan Ballou
  • King David
4. Caricatures of the Lover Face:
1) If a man’s Lover Face is pushed too far, he can “show love” by becoming critical, harsh, and demanding of his wife and kids – Micro-manager.
2.) A cold and withdrawn man – disconnected, detached, and isolated.
3. If a man’s Lover Face is pushed too far, He can also become over-dependent on women or relationships in general – over-sensitive.


The Friend FacePursuing Character-Shaping Friendships
1. The Friend Face is primarily associated with a man’s relational capacity to Connect with other men.
2. The Friend Face reflects connecting energy. It is characterized by loyalty, accountability, encouragement, challenge, and fun.
3. We must learn to Initiate genuine friendship with other men. Great friendship provides companions who carry burdens and celebrate life’s great moments with us.
4. You can’t climb the mountain of manhood and reach its pinnacles if you are Disconnected from other men.
  • Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” [ESV]
  • Proverbs 27:17 “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”[ESV]
·        Biblical, soul-level friendships are priceless:
·        They require our Time.

·        They require us to be Others centered.

5. Caricatures of the Friend Face:
·  If a man’s Friend Face is pushed too far, he can become dependent on those around him – The Leech.
·  If a man’ does not have enough of the Friend Face, then you get the typical, friendless, disconnected male – The Loner.
·  Pursue Character shaping friendships.

Conclusion
1. Wise is the man who can learn to wear these different faces of manhood.
2. Like everything we’ve said, you cannot fully embrace these Four Faces of Manhood unless you first embrace a right relationship with God and the provision he has made for us through Jesus Christ.


 Taken from 33 THE SERIES "A MAN AND HIS DESIGN"
LifeWay

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